So, I know that I’m supposed to be covering politics this week; but I’m sure if you try really hard you can see some politics in this post. However, I will be WAY off the beaten path today because I have a question.
What the fuck are you women who are dating these younger guys thinking?! You Cougar women who find these young hot guys and have relationships with them, what the hell do you have in common with a 20-something year old who has barely escaped puberty with his life and an opposable thumb?! I can understand the argument about there being no decent men out there but really? Is dating your baby brother really going to solve the problem for you or just add more problems? I ask you this, more than likely if you are 30 and he is 20 what are you going to share, your mutual love of ice cream and movies? What are you building with this person that has a lasting effect?
I think that women who date younger men are unfulfilled mothers. Women who want to be the mommy because it’s easier just to tell a man, who is eager to please, what to do than to actually be in a VIABLE adult relationship. A relationship where the pair of you enters into it with respect and love and a working knowledge that whatever that person gives in the relationship is because he or she wants to give it—not is being told to give it! Listen, I’m all for crazy, mad love. Love that makes you do things that you never thought you would do…..or feel things you never thought you would feel. However, when love is making you act like an ass by taking the easy road out of a viable relationship, I say fuck love! I refuse to ever believe that a woman who is accomplished that is dating a man 10 or more years younger than she is “in love”! Nay, nay, she is “in control”! There is nothing lovely about a woman who is in a relationship to “teach” her partner what she likes so that he can be her lackey. To take a persons’ mind at its most fecund point and arresting it to accomplish your selfish whims, is deplorable to me.
Knowledge: If a man loves you….I mean truly loves you he will want to lend to who you are as a person, not just fulfill your every whim. He will want to challenge you intellectually and cause you to think outside of the box, he will not want you to train him to be inside of a box. A man who is responsible and has something to offer is going to do it on mutual terms, based on your love for each other, and will not be your lackey. Any woman who is looking for a lackey to do what she wants when she wants needs help, immediately! Please, to all the women out there who are dating these younger men, giving them the illusion that they are in a functional relationship because they can do what “mommy” tells them and subsequently keep her happy, take a minute to think about what happens when the pair of you move on to other lovers.
1. He is no longer capable of taking the lead in his life or anyone else’s, he always is a lackey, always and forever being told what to do.
2. He will forever have his mind stunted by your selfishness in life, thereby creating a man who is lazy in thought and creativity.
3. He will eventually just find another woman who is needy and controlling as you to order him around and will never get the full experience of a mutual viable relationship because he has never had to think.
I am placing all Cougars on notice. You all should do something good for the community and for your children if you have them. Be willing to allow a man to be a man and love you without form of your controlling it. Teach your sons that if they love a woman they will want to bring something to the table, not just go from one mommy to the next. Teach your sons that if a woman loves him, she will respect him and love him and support him in being a better man….not control him. If, however you are a Cougar and refuse to re-evaluate your relationship, all I can wish is that your sons see the error of your ways and choose a better relationship…..oh, and I also wish for a plague on both your houses!
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